Complete Postpartum

Blogging, texting, emailing and all the new technology is amazing. What a feeling to have a question for a friend and get gratified quickly with a response or a new piece of information from the Internet.
The challenge for us is that in real time relationships with our partners or our children, the gratification rarely occurs that quickly or sometimes not as satisfactorily. We must in minutes or seconds make a response or make a decision that may not have all the information we would like to have. And then once the decision is made and an action is taken we wonder and worry whether we have made the right decision. We guess and second guess and for some mothers this can feel agonizing and undermining to our daily existence.
Partnering or Parenting is not just a science or an art but an interaction of both. It is influenced by emotion, our individual truths, our hopes, and often our distortions about ourselves. Learning how to tell the difference in what is driving our choices takes time, and learning how to change our responses to feel more at peace with ourselves takes even more time. We are more than our emotions. We do not choose our feelings we can only choose our reactions. Feelings do not and cannot predict outcomes. They are feelings, just that; a part of, but not all of who we are.